You need insights that would help you, right principles to follow and healthy practices that will keep you together. Consider these – What was your motive for marriage? Sexual attraction, economic consideration, escape from family or parental control or readiness for marriage? You need to discover your reason for getting into the relationship in the first place and make necessary changes that will help you to have a better foundation.
- How intimate are you with your mate? Do you have a strong commitment to each other and to your relationship?
- How well do you understand yourselves? Are you good friends and can share confidences? According to Dr. Dobson, he said that “intimacy is the mystical bond of friendship, commitment and understanding that almost defies explanation. It occurs when a man and a woman, being separate or distinct individuals are fused into a single unit which the Bible calls “one flesh.”
- Do you accept each other unconditionally? As manure is to plants, so is unconditional love in a marriage. You should be willing to work at building a stable interpersonal relationship that will see you through “the storms of life”
- There is this saying that the key to healthy marriage is to “keep” your eyes open before the wedding or keeping it half closed after marriage”. Be careful when making the choice of a life partner.Persevere, overlook faults and love unconditionally.
- Avoid premarital sex and remain faithful to your mate. There are benefits spiritual, physical and psychological.
- Make your home a haven of love and rest.
- Build up each other especially in areas of weaknesses.
- Men and women are different. Find out the basic differences,. This would help you avoid or reduce friction or conflict.
- Be forgiving and prayerful for those who have faith in prayer.
- Be selfless, self disciplined and self sacrificing.